Kid is killed playing in traffic, mom doesn’t blame everyone else for accident.

Now here’s a story we hear in the news all to often, but this time it has a bit of a surprise ending.

When Deborah Cain saw some boys lying next to a road near Gasquet earlier this year, she asked her son what the kids were doing. Lediah told her it was essentially a game of chicken where kids pretend to be dead in the street and panic unsuspecting motorists.

That was the joke, Lediah said. When the motorists stopped to offer aid to the “victim,” he would jump up and run to join his friends who were hiding nearby.

What Cain didn’t realize at the time she heard this was that her son would become a traffic fatality while playing the same game.

Basically, someone dared Lediah to take it a step further and actually lay down in the middle of the traffic lane instead of just by the side of the road and the kid went ahead and did it and, naturally, got hit for real. Normally when we read stories like this the parents end up blaming everyone and everything under the sun for this tragedy other than the kid who was, let’s face it, dumb enough to lay down in the middle of the road. Everything from the kid’s buddies to movie depictions of similar stupid stunts to video games to drugs to the driver of the car involved in the accident are usually the first things the parents point at and blame for what happened. Deborah Cain, however, is rare in that she doesn’t try to throw the blame all over the place.

Cain said she didn’t blame anyone for the accident, and added she didn’t want anyone else to criticize the youths who may have few outlets for entertainment in a small community.

“The boys ֖ they have to live with what they’ve seen and what they’ve experienced,” she said. “Instead of criticizing them, we need to listen to them and what they need for entertainment, whether it’s a park, a skateboard park or something else. And we need to let them know how precious life is.”

That has to be the most sensible response I’ve ever heard a distraught parent give to what is certainly a tragic event. It is such a remarkable occurrence I felt the need to actually talk about it here to help balance out all the stories we hear where the parents go on to blame everyone else for what happened. Here is a woman in mourning over the loss of her son who decided not to compound the damage done by lashing out at others. A highly commendable approach which I hope will catch on.

5 thoughts on “Kid is killed playing in traffic, mom doesn’t blame everyone else for accident.

  1. Lediah was my friend and you’re right, Deborah was brave to not blame everyone else for Lediahs accident. Lediah was one of those crazy kids who’d do anything for a good laugh, and the place where we live isnt very fun so he was constantly coming up with new ways to entertain us. I miss him a lot, R.I.P. LAS.

  2. First of all thanx for the Kudos
    Again the original first quote from the newspaper was incorrect and they retracted it.

    MY SON AND I NEVER SAW KIDS LAYING IN THE ROAD. THEY WERE WALKING AFTER TEN PM ON THE SIDE OF THE ROAD AND ME BEING THE SNOOPY MOTHER MADE A COMMENT ABOUT WHY THEY WERE OUT PAST 10 ON A SCHOOL NIGHT. HE THEN TOLD ME THEY WERE PROBABLY PLAYING THE GAME FROM; THE PROGRAM A MOVIE.

    ALSO FOR THE RECORD MY SON WAS IN THE CENTER TURN LANE NOT IN THE SOUTHBOUND LANE. THE CENTER TURN LANE WAS THOUGHT TO BE SAFER BECAUSE OF THE SOLID YELLOW LINE THAN THE MIDDLE OF THE SOUTHBOUND LANE. AND THE FACT THAT AN INEXPERIENCED DRIVER-BARELY 17 YR OLD WOULD THINK THAT DOESN’T SURPRISE ME.ONE OF HIS FRIENDS WHO WAS THERE SAID THEY THOUGHT IT WAS DARING BUT STILL SAFE BECAUSE,” CARS DON’T GO INTO THE CENTER TURN LANE ESPECIALLY WHEN THERE IS NO PLACE TO TURN TO LEFT IF GOING SOUTH”.

    AS FOR THESE PEOPLE WHO SAY THEY WERE HIS FRIEND WHEN THEY WEREN’T AND WANT SOME KIND OF GLORY FROM IT. THEY ARE IGNORANT. HIS REAL FRIENDS THAT WERE PRESENT WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AND THIS I KNEW WHEN I LOOKED INTO THEIR CRYING EYES THAT NIGHT AFTER IDENTIFYING HIS BODY THAT WAS STILL LAYING ON THE SOLID YELLOW LINE AND HAD BEEN ALREADY TURNED OVER ONCE TOWARDS THE SOUTHBOUND LANE BY THE FIRE CHIEF. THE CAR HAD ALSO BEEN MOVED COMPLETELY ACROSS THE ROAD AND WAS FACING THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION IT WAS GOING BEFORE THE CHP ARRIVED.
    TRAGEDY DOES NOT CHOOSE ECONOMIC ABUNDANCE OVER POVERTY OR VICE VERSA NOR DOES IT CHOOSE UNINTELLIGENCE OVER INTELLIGENCE NOR RACE OVER RACE IT IS NON-DISCRIMINATE.IT CHOOSES WHAT IT WANTS WHEN IT WANTS, AND WE ARE NEVER PREPARED.
    THIS WILL BE MY LAST COMMENT AS I’M HEADED TO FINISH MY PRE-LAW STUDIES AND THEN TO LAW SCHOOL. NEVER KNOW
    MIGHT RUN INTO ONE OF YOU IN THE FUTURE
    UNTIL THEN LIVE EACH DAY FULLY
    ALWAYS HUG AND KISS THOSE YOU LOVE AND IF YOU ARE A PARENT DON’T TAKE YOUR FRUSTRATIONS OUT ON YOUR CHILDREN, WE ARE ALL LEARNING HERE.
    IF YOU ARE A TEENAGER AND YOU THINK NO-ONE KNOWS HOW YOU FEEL YOU ARE PROBABLY RIGHT. BUT DON’T BE A VICTIM ABOUT IT YOU ARE THE FUTURE OF THE WORLD.
    lEDIAH’S MOM,
    DEBORAH-

  3. lediah was one of my best friends in high school. funniest kid i ever met. when i heard the bad news i couldnt believe it. losing a good friend is the hardest thing i’ve went through in my life. this would’ve been my senior quote but it was too long:

              “To our best friend
            past present and beyond
      even though you werent with us too long
    your life is the most precious thing that we could lose. while you were the fun was never ending laugh a minute only the beginning Lediah Adrian Schmidt this ones for you!”
    bro hymn, pennywise
    RIP Lediah, i miss you buddy

  4. lediah was the best bro anyone could ever ask fo.the one summer that he spent down here with us was the most fun i have ever had.I love you bro.
    nate

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