Actually, Consi thinks you’re a bit of a goer…

It’s not just the women
(now where was that soap?...)

Now when I was much younger I was a reasonably good looking fellow who managed to have more than his fair share of attention from people of the opposite gender

I’m 20 and never been in a relationship. Keep running away.

Oddly enough the sudden realization that the wrinkles were already there and just too small to see in normal light didn’t really upset

Also it may interst people that it’s oxidation with atmospheric oxygen that makes skin lose elasticity (not that that applies here). Oxygen also can form free radicals that degrade DNA, hence why occasionally cancer happens without much in the way of added carcinogens

as I’ve been struggling with a mild bout of depression lately over my continued unemployment

You could try modelling

I’ll be thirty in June, a notion that slightly churns my stomach. Defintely not old, but not getting any younger either. That’s partly why I appreciate the flirtations of KPG and others--you guys have no idea what I look like, but it tickles me pink to know that I evidently still radiate some sort of charm on the eve of the big three-oh. 

Don’t worry about it. People have a different stance on their personality online anyways, no matter how much they try to avoid it. I’m a pretty private person irl, and I haven’t been used to overt female interest since I was slim and in my early twenties. Really, in real life I doubt most people who give me a second glance.

I’ve had online stalkers though, women who I’d talked to for some short period of time who went out of their way to find my home phone numbers and send me pictures of themselves in lingerie and such telling me about how they wished they could leave their husbands. Mind you, these aren’t even people I’d consider good friends online, those sorts being restricted to people I’ve been talking to more or less every day in some respect for years and years. No, just people who read some of my blogs and who I let talk at me while I’d brush my teeth and shrug ignoring them.

I still don’t know how that managed to translate into desperate late night phone calls from people I’ve never met, but it’s easy to be flattered by it when you’re not being creeped out. Anyways, take them as they roll in. The good news is, if you’re their perfect man sight unseen now you’ll still be their perfect invisible man when you’re sixty and you’re looking for quite a bit more assurances of your manly hotness.

Les, don’t worry about hitting 40. Go like hell until you hit 60 and then kill yourself.
It’s all downhill from there.

Your “over the hill” scribe;
Allan W Janssen

Thanks MM

For now I’d settle for a stalker, conditional on there being no big scary partners that might come after me. A stalker should be quite flexible, so I can get away with being a lazy-ass slob, so minimal freedom loss there. I’ll have to find a site like that, seems a low risk approach where I can fade into the murky void of internet if things go wrong. I once stalked a girl for a couple of months a few years back, which I regret for the distress I now know I caused (was oblivious to it then), but it was an experience that helps me better understand such people. My case was not dangerous, I wanted a relationship but simply had no clue as to how to initiate, so from what the films and whatnot suggested I deliberately developed an obsession and just assumed the rest would happen automatically. Never done it since I realised the effect. Being someone who runs to the hills under any pressure I have never asked a girl out who hadn’t asked me first (there was one case here) and even then I had no clue as to what to do, so I buggered off home. I would be flattered if I had a safe stalker, even male, but I wouldn’t know how to deal with them if I didn’t want a relationship, they tend to be quite vulnerable

I think I’ve actually become less of the correct personality over time anyway, I satisfy more of the criteria of hate now, I avoid all responisbility and any work, I see the confidence approach as too falsified to act out, I lie to make life easier, and I don’t really care what new item of clothing they bought, and quite frankly prefer budget computer games to parting with cash at expensive diners

And if it takes too long ther’es always amsterdam a short flight away (I’d like to try doing that at one point in my life). but hey, no pressure on myself, if I have no expectations I can’t be disapointed, and computer games are so much more escapism like and tunable, and don’t limit your freedom.

Well I’ll be damned! That would be me you’re referring to. I’ve been a stealth reader and fan for a good while now. I guess this is as good a time as any to make a profile on here.
I must say, the last thing I expected when writing that silly little entry was that anyone I linked to would actually find it! You’re far too hard on yourself - I don’t read your site via a RSS feed, and I still stand by my assessment.

Thanks for all the great reading material. Keep up the good work.

Leather Jacket… Check
Quiff...Check

All together now

Tell me more, tell me more, did ya get very far?

Ok, I admit it, jealousy.

LH: a bit of a goer…

What’s it like? 
Timeless.

Les: I could still pretend to be a young ...

I went to Tassie at xmas and on NY’s eve saw a coupla blokes I hadn’t seen since my early teens.
Whilst chatting another older bloke came up and told me (I couldn’t remember he or his name but he remembered me) I was the kid who used to climb the trees and call he and his mates a packa bastards whilst they were playing cricket in one of the backyards.
I smiled and in my head I was that 10 year old kid again.
When Mum turned 60 I asked how old she felt.
She said, about 23 in her head.

I’m sure that if I could get rid of about 30 kilos I’d feel 23 again.

Purley! PURLEY!  SAY NO MORE.

LJ- If I want bits of Monty Python quoted I’ll talk to one of my father-in-laws.  Who incidently (he said , cunning bringing his post back to subject) has a new woman at 70. (well a return to one from 15 years ago)

LH: one of my father-in-laws

Alright - I’ll play.
How come you have plural FiLs and don’t go all ‘et fils’ French on me. 

Sadie: ... still radiate some sort of charm on the eve of the big three-oh.

Of course you do. You’re a woman and a young one at that.
Damn, girl ... haven’t you worked out how basic we are yet? 

But, I wish you’d go back to the girl with the orange - she seemed more happy or enigmatic than the poignant one.
She doesn’t seem to be the ‘you’ that you project - you project much more positive and or life.
Don’t worry about me - I have a monthly appt with my psych in half an hour and I’m trying to get myself into an analytical mood or at least a little more down than I am.
Wow. A chopper just flew close overhead.  That’ll do it. 

LJ: She doesn’t seem to be the ‘you’ that you project - you project much more positive and or life.

*sniff* That was really sweet, John. I think you’re right about Orange Hippie Chick needing a comeback. They’re both lovely, but OHC seems definitely more radiant and joyous in her pic. Here she is up close and personal, where she’s even more of a sight for sore, weary eyes.

Double-dipping: I’m not positive and I have no real proof, but I think that this young man may have been OHC’s son. Almost makes me want to have a baby of my own someday.

Oh, wait, no it doesn’t. Cute kid, anyway.

Turning the decades does suck, But 30 even 40 is still basically youthful. I’m 52 and I only feel old when I think about the fact that I could be Sadie’s Dad. Jeez....

I do like the idea that I am old enough to know better, but still too young to care about certain things. If you want to stay young, avoid using alcohol or other drugs to excess. I am sure it took some time from me. I can honestly say it was not worth it. Good Health is a human beings most precious asset, without it happiness is next to impossible. I have enjoyed my life for the most part, I am glad I am not any younger as I feel my prime years in the late 60’s and 70’s, were the best years the US had to offer. I see Global Society as all downhill from now on. I think I may be a bit old fashioned.

I’m 52 and I only feel old when I think about the fact that I could be Sadie’s Dad. Jeez....

Nah, you’re hardly old, Paul. Daddy will be sixty-two in July, and I always thought my mom was on the young side when I was born (she was twenty-six). In fact, since most of my idols were born in the early/mid-1940s or earlier, I tend to view people born after 1950 as positively young.

I tend to view people born after 1950 as positively young.

Hey, I was born after 1950- after the beginning of the year, anyway- and I’m still young and positive.  Sure, there are downsides to getting older, but there are upsides too.

Ah, Les, you really are stupid if you think a chick’s only interested in your looks.  Any woman (or man) worth having is more interested in what’s between your ears than what’s between your legs.
Science Goddess

Sadie: I’ll be thirty in June, a notion that slightly churns my stomach. Defintely not old, but not getting any younger either. That’s partly why I appreciate the flirtations

Sadie, my car is ten years older than you, and I definitely think you’re more charming than my car.  Only reason I don’t flirt much is I’m really bad at it. 

It used to be that as long as I was in my thirties I could still pretend to be a young guy and that was helped by older people telling me “you’re still just a kid” whenever I mentioned my age, but as the big four-oh approaches I no longer feel like I can play that game anymore.

Les, it’s not the age, it’s the mileage that matters. 

LJ- There’s my Father in law, and his 2nd daughter (wifes half sister), plus all her (wife’) step brothers/sisters.
PLUS Her step dad (from age 4), Her brother, and her half brother- born the same day as the half sister (but about 20 years apart), although they are not related.

My birthday is the 23rd this month, when I will be 29… and a few months.

Not to mention the fact that I’m overweight and about to hit 40 years old this year.

Thoughts of resolutions, Les? If you want to shed the pounds, you’d be best to get lost - literally, just walk around, wander the city with some companion, then when you start to feel like going home, landmark and find your way back.

A few hours one evening a week was enough to convince my girlfriend (the constant time spent with school is contributing largely to keeping me unfit).

SG: Ah, Les, you really are stupid if you think a chick’s only interested in your looks.  Any woman (or man) worth having is more interested in what’s between your ears than what’s between your legs.

Can’t ignore physical needs, SG. Nobody’s above lust when the hormones are raging; just try to sit through a lecture about electron probing (or backside attack, aka SN2) whilst horny.

To expect someone to resist a physical need takes an ever increasing amount of psychological effort as the cravings increase, and beyond a point it’s not worth resisting, if ever there was a reason to resist in the first place. Physical needs are like addictions we cannot escape from, but allow a potential for satisfaction, so for example needing food is a good thing if it means you get lots of your favourite ice cream. There seems no point to me in not satisfying the physical needs where possible, otherwise your torturing yourself indefinitely and increasingly to nobody’s benefit.

Where I naturally come on this physical vs psychological scale when dealing with people depends on when I last did something to releave the lust, otherwise it’s near impossible to think straight, men at least will only be able to resist lust if it wasn’t long since they last did something to satisfy it.

Also women may well be more interested in personality, but what they seem to value as defining a ‘good’ personality shouldn’t surprise them if they turn out to be jerks, because some personality things come together, because certain aspects of personality happen only under certain conditions, hence conditions that makes people nice is often not the same thing as what makes them confident, and then there can be resentment between groups that are not similar, and due to the nature of these personality traits, one naturally carries more clout than the other. You might be surprised at how much pushy men can influence women under the right conditions (love), and vice versa, and so again, if one traight is naturally more dominant, that explains society’s greater regard for it’s importance generally.

I’m married.  I can only assume she was desperate.

She should’ve contacted me - any lonely women please email:

p.s. it’s valentines day tomorrow!

Also women may well be more interested in personality,

This is a mantra of femininity, but I still don’t see the women knocking down the door to my friend Alan’s apartment. He’s a real nice guy, but he’s also 350+ lbs that wears flip-flops when he’s not working, showing off some absolutely terrifying looking toenails.

On the other hand, I’ve got other friends whose main selling points seem to be their jobs - they’re self-centered womanizing jerks, with no definable physical features out of the norm, but they pull in significant excesses of cash each month and women crawl out of holes just to drape themselves on them. To be fair, I realize that I put up with an awful lot from them because they have nice things and provide free beer too.

Les, maybe the success of your website has led some people to come to equate that success with other success?